She was just 14 yet she thought she already found her “The One” with her boyfriend. He was just 16 and he think he can already marry her girlfriend. They were just 17 and they think they can already live their own life. But after few weeks, months, years, their love story came to an end. Who wouldn’t think they won’t? As a cliche goes, “Walang Forever!,” not because there is really no happy ending for love. It is just that because they assumed that they can find true love at their age and they have proven themselves wrong. Well not at all because to be honest, some couples are living their happily ever after from their teenage love.
Most people engaging themselves to relationships in an early age usually ends up in a bitter way called “HEARTBREAK”. And this is something that can be a joke to others but is already a serious topic for some. Of course who would be happy if the one you always want to be with asks for a breakup with you? And there’s this part called ‘Denial’ and then ‘Moving On’. For a teenager who just encounters heartbreak from a serious relationship, this can already be hard.
From long sweet messages from day to night to a simple goodbye. From long tight hugs and sweet moments to a cold and blank stare. From ‘I love you’ to ‘I’m breaking up with you’, that is how a teenage relationship usually ends up. Even if you call yourself an adult already, I bet you would still feel pain if ever these happpened to you and your partner. The first one may feel that excruciating pain she think will never vanish. The other one may feel anxious and can even feel that it is as if his self-confidence gets low and that he can never be happy again. These are just some of the effects of a breakup to teenager.
Teenagers suffering from this really needs someone to share the pain with or else, it might get worse. If someone just came to you and asks for help, never hesitate. There are these 5 steps on how to help the teenagers heal their broken heart.
First, simply let them burst out in emotions. Let them cry as long as they want. This is an effective way to ease the pain they’re feeling. This will also make them feel that they were not alone and that they still have someone to hold on to aside from their past relationship. A sympathetic hug from you can also do.
Then, let them tell different stories to you. Even if you’re bored already, never show it to them. Just let them feel that they have someone beside them. This is a good start of accepting what happened and moving on. This gesture of yours will make them realize that being themselves is still acceptable rather than changing everything just to show that she/he is better than who s/he used to.
After this, let them remember all the good in themselves. Not in a boastful way but just to bring back their love for selves that may have lost because of the toxic relationship. You can encourage them to do the things he used to do before like playing his/her favorite sport or others. You can also remind them of their little good qualities. This can also give a feeling of sympathy to them.
Also, you can push them to do different things just to keep them busy. This will restrain them from thinking too deep about what happened. Although this can be hard at times especially that they are suffering from a grief moment but this really helps.
Lastly, help them remember to be kind to his/herself. This is the best thing you can do to help someone like them. Let them groom, have some time alone, and just have fun. In this way, they can easily accept what happened.
Teenagers are still young and the sadness caused by heartbreak can be so deep that it can be hard for them. Still, the best way as a teenager to avoid the pain is simply to abstain. As the saying goes, “Prevention is better than cure.”
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